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If you had no FEAR

I talk to a lot of people….a LOT of people.

Do you know the one thing I hear more frequently than anything else?

The F word…….FEAR

Fear of making wrong decision, Fear of failure, Fear of Success, Fear of being alone, Fear of other people’s judgments and on and on……

Why do we live in such fear?

Or maybe the real question is why do we allow those fears to control us, dictate what we do and don’t do, run our lives?

Lets be honest, we ALL have fears, we do. Why do some allow them to run their lives and others don’t?

I will tell you why.

The people that are allowing fear to have control havent challenged or questioned their fears.

Our society, in general, has somehow decided that if you fear something there is good reason and you should run as far away from it as you can. Fear = Bad

WRONG!!

Fear is a privilege. Fear provides the most amazing opportunity to growth.

Imagine waking up tomorrow and you were FearLESS. What changes?

EVERYTHING changes.

Everything you want is on the other side of your fear but most people won’t take the risk because of their fear of failure.

Failure is not ‘failure’…’Failure is simply producing a result. ‘Failure only exists when we give that result a meaning about who we are.” -Mastin Kipp

Take that part out and let failure just be a result and it changes everything.

Good leaders go to where the fear is and embrace it -Kerwin Rae

Fear is needed, fear is what prepares you for greatness.

Imagine one of your greatest fears is climbing an incredibly high mountain.

Imagine facing your fear and deciding to do it anyway. Every step up that mountain your heart raced, you told yourself “just don’t look down” and you went step by step. You got to the top of that mountain, how do you feel? AMAZING, POWERFUL, INSPIRED AND UNSTOPPABLE.

Now, imagine your fear was taken from you and you had ABSOLUTELY NO FEAR about climbing this same mountain. What would the journey be like? What would there be to celebrate once you reached to the top? Would you feel those same feelings?

FEAR prepares you for greatness!

So, what would you do if you had no fear? Rather than try to wish away the fear, embrace it.

What is on the other side of the fear is what really matters.

Does gratitude really matter?

You all know and have heard you should be grateful for what you have. This is nothing new.

It is easy to find gratitude when life is going good, things are as we want them or we are at least not in the midst of a crisis. It can also be easy to find gratitude when things seem to be turned upside down, at least if we are using the Law of Relativity correctly it can be.

What about those times when things are neither great or terrible. When life seems to be on auto-pilot.

I find that this is when most people fall off the gratitude band wagon, when there isn’t an intentional effort to focus on what IS working and the abundant blessings all around them. People sort of just coast through this time waiting for the next high or low.

What if I told you that by intentionally connecting to gratitude and making it a focus, even and especially during the auto pilot days your highs and lows can flow easier?

It’s true. I recently heard that gratitude is the equalizer. Although we know, through the Law of Rhythm, there must be ups and downs. Gratitude has the power to make these highs and lows flow more smoothly.

Picture one of those machines that measures heart rate. You see those extreme ups and downs, they are sharp and drastic. This depicts how life feels and it becomes easy to live in constant anticipation of the next high or low.

Living in the frequency of gratitude is the way to make those sharp and drastic ups and downs softer and less dramatic. You also begin to look forward to this natural rhythm, knowing it is necessary.

Feeling gratitude, even in your lowest, is power.

Understanding the Law of Rhythm will help you connect to more gratitude in every moment. Knowing when you swing left you must next swing right and when you are in down you must go up.

Find gratitude and blessings in the minutia of each day, in the boring, in the simple and watch how it opens you up to receive more.

Happy Groundhog Day!

For anyone who’s seen the 1993 movie, GROUNDHOG DAY, you will remember that Phil Connors (Bill Murray) is stuck repeating the same miserable day over and over and over.  Phil is a self-centered weatherman from Pittsburgh who dreads going to the small Pennsylvania town of Punxsutawney every year on February 2nd to cover the forecast of the famous, weather-predicting groundhog, Punxsutawney Phil.  Phil hates everything about Punxsutawney–the small town, the people, their enthusiasm for the ridiculous holiday, and he is rude, mean, judgmental, and treats people terribly.  He can’t wait to leave and get back to the city.  To Phil’s dismay, he wakes up the day after Groundhog Day and discovers he must relive that same awful day over and over.  He tries everything he can to escape, but he’s still stuck in a day that he hates.  He becomes angry and depressed and forecasts the weather as, “It’s going to be cold and grey, and it’s going to last you for the rest of your life.”  His misery increases, and while drowning his sorrows in a bar, he asks two guys, “What would you do if you were stuck in one place and every day was the same and nothing you did mattered?”

The beautiful thing about this movie is that at its heart, it is a metaphor for how many of us feel–stuck living day after day in lives that we find miserable, and no matter how hard we try or what we do, we feel unable to make any significant changes.  We may not be stuck in Punxsutawney on Groundhog Day, but we may be held captive by our fears, feelings of powerlessness, shame, beliefs passed down through generations, or many other limiting habitual thought patterns that we aren’t even aware that we hold.  Eventually Phil realizes the only way he can change his experience of Groundhog Day is to change himself.  It takes effort, but he becomes kind, positive, loving, and grateful, and only once he has changed, does time begin to move forward for him again.  Before that, Phil tells his producer, Rita, his predicament, and she replies, “Maybe it’s not a curse.  Maybe it’s just how you look at it.”  We, too, can learn to change our thoughts, our perspectives, our past stories, and then we can step into the future, living lives we love.

At the very end of the movie, Phil has changed so dramatically that he looks out at the town of Punxsutawney and says to Rita, “It’s so beautiful!  Let’s live here!”  It’s estimated that Phil Connors relived Groundhog Day for ten years before he was able to finally shift and make the necessary changes.  However, there’s no reason for us to suffer that long.  If you are serious about making changes that will awaken you to the beauty, power, and magic of your own life, contact me and we can create a plan to free you from your own self-imposed version of Groundhog Day.

Doubt much?

Last week I wrote about fear and how it keeps you choosing the same old story and keeps you from experiencing the transformation and change you desire. Fear is certainly one of the biggest reasons people stay in mediocrity. This week I wanted to talk about another key thing I see holding you back.

DOUBT…..

You doubt your abilities, you doubt you have the support required, you doubt you have the time, you doubt you have the skills, you doubt EVERYTHING.

Doubt is just part of your very compelling story that keeps drawing you in with intensity and realism. “Can I really do better” “That life is for everyone else, not me” “I have tried and nothing has worked for me”  “ I just don’t have what it takes” I am going to be honest, I am tired and weary of hearing you give these lies more credence in your life than they deserve. They have run your life long enough. Doubting yourself and your abilities does NOTHING for you expect solidify the ‘lie’ that you aren’t enough and aren’t capable of greatness. Those lies are getting really old, I know you are feeling it too. I heard the weariness in so many of you the last few weeks but you just lack the knowledge how to not let your doubt run your life, it’s so loud and real, I get it.

To quote Dr. Phil Hows that working for ya?

There is a better way to live, a higher level thinking and living that IS POSSIBLE, even for YOU.  We all want to believe we are somehow unique or special. And you are, just not in the way you think. You are not unique in that changing your beliefs, clearing your energy and becoming the master of your mind won’t work for you to live the life you dream of. That is a LIE.

Successful people, whether it be athletes, entrepreneurs, or people who have success in relationships didnt have an unfair advantage over you. They simply learned to not trust the doubt, the lies and the stories their minds were telling them.

Watch for next week a special email with some tips for you to move beyond your doubt, to take action in spite of your fears and gain the knowledge necessary for your success.

Much love.

Your compelling story or radical change? Your choice

I have been so blown away by the number of you that, though miserable, will continue to buy into the compelling story you call reality over and over again.

Why is your story so compelling? Do you ever wonder why this story, the reality you are currently experiencing, yet are unhappy with, continues to play itself out and you seem somewhat drawn to it over and over again?

I can’t tell you how many times I have heard “I want _______(fill in the blank)”,  “I am so sick of not having money” “I am so tired of being unhappy” “I want more in life” yet you continue to create more of the same over and over again. Nothing is really changing expect you are growing very weary of your story yet you cant seem to walk away from it? Why?

I will tell you the biggest thing(s) I see keeping people and most likely you stuck.

Fear plays a HUGE role in sucking you into staying put. Fear is a funny thing you know. The more I understand fear the more I come to learn it is nothing, its not even real. “Not real?!” you may be saying. Ha. I know it seems so very real and powerful in your life, trust me I know. However, think about what you fear. Fear you won’t pay your bill, fear you won’t get the job, fear you will fail, fear you will be alone the rest of your life. NONE of this has actually happened so this ‘fear’ is really nothing at all. It is just a temporary deviation from living as who you are meant to be, your best self. Fear keeps that from happening, it keeps you in mediocrity.

I am inspired when I hear of people doing things that scare them but you did it anyway.

Go <here> and share with me what you did and how you felt.

I will tell you something I did that was terrifying and exhilarating at the same time.

SKYDIVING…..right after I turned 18. My heart was racing as I took my place on the edge of the open door in the plane, ready to jump out. The air so powerful against my face I could hardly breathe. I jumped, I did it and I was SO glad I told my fear to take a hike. It rejoined me briefly as I was ‘falling’ through the air but it didn’t last too long as it was the most exhilarating feeling to literally be falling through the sky, I always wished I could fly!!

Share your story with me <here>

***P.S. Watch for the next two things I see keeping you on repeat. Coming soon! ***

30 Day Experiment and 90 Day Rule

In sales there is this 90 day rule. What you do today (or sell) will create your results 90 days from now. So if you don’t want to be broke 90 days from now you work your tail off, not seeing the results yet but trusting that you will.

In sales or not this 90 day rule is being applied all the time, with every one of us.

If we only had the trust and faith that the work we do today, the way we think and believe and feel is creating our results in life, as much as we trust the 90 day rule sales model we would be creating so much more of what we want.

Life, happening all the time, all around and within us seems to create this  un-truth that “life happens”.  I can’t tell you how many times I have heard this “well, life happens. Just have to deal with it”. We couldn’t be further from the truth when we think that way. We are literally creating our future every day, every thought, every action and every thing we do (or dont do).

I didn’t want to buy into this for a long time because crap that meant I was to blame for any unhappiness or lack I was experiencing. It’s much easier and more fun to blame circumstance, upbringing or down right bad luck. Isn’t it?

I recently heard this quote from Leslie Householder that made me laugh and sunk in so deep at the same time. She said something like this, ‘We tell ourselves lies every day, why not tell our self lies that support us in creating a life we want”.  Haha, I had to laugh when I heard this. It’s so true. When I first started telling myself things like “I am Enough” “ I am a success” it felt so wrong, I wasn’t connected to it at all, IT WAS A LIE.  Or at least it was a lie according to my current vibration (what I thought was truth).

I eventually told myself the ‘lie’ about me being enough enough times that it then became my new truth. That is where my new vibration resonated and now when I say that it feels oh sooooo good and true.

What lies are you telling yourself today that are creating your current reality? What thoughts are most dominant? Do they support what you want or more of the same, what you dont want?

To quote Abraham Hicks, “If there is something that you want that is not coming to you, it is for only one reason: you are vibrationally different from it. If there is something you have that you don’t want, it’s for only one reason: you are vibrationally the same as it.”

What are you going to experience in the next 90 days, or less 😉

Drifter or Deliberate Creator?

Are you a drifter? I have been a drifter most my life. Not a drifter in the sense of having no place to call home and roaming about the country. 🙂

A drifter in the sense of direction and life. Sort of just drifting where the wind would take me, get excited or pumped about this or that and then easily move on to the next exciting project or thing that came my way because it felt right or sounded fun, never really creating deliberately.

Being a drifter left me with lots of certifications, lots of unfinished projects or ideas and lots of fun. It also left me feeling unfulfilled and wondering what I was doing with my life. Sure, I had lots going but everything I was doing, outside of motherhood, was never enough. I would get really excited to, let’s say get my personal training certification, and would have these big dreams of all the different things I could do once I did. I would do just enough to get my certification then the spark fizzled and I would eventually decide it wasn’t for me. I did this many times with different things; massage, training, nutrition, essential oils, etc. etc.

I recall really beating myself up for not really ‘finishing’ or doing anything with any of these things. I felt very disposable, very insignificant.

I have been steadily working my mentoring, energy healing practice for almost 2 years now (after 4 years of being certified and creating nothing). I have only been successful due to learning about being a ‘drifter’ vs ‘deliberate creation’. AHA, there it was, something that finally made sense to me as to why I hadn’t taken anything all the way to it’s potential. I was drifting. I was NOT creating deliberately. I had no definite-ness of purpose, as my mentor calls it.

Amazing what changes when you create with that definite-ness of purpose. Things move, align and fall into place, it’s so much fun. It is certainly not all cherries and gumdrops, there have been many days I have felt tired and not wanted to continue but I have learned to not be drifter anymore. I now run a successful Mentoring, Energy Healing practice. I work with clients all over the country helping them re-claim their lives, connect with their purpose and live the best version of themselves. I have the best job in the world!!

What will you decide for 2017? To create with deliberate purpose or continue drifting?

Watch for my next week’s blog post for tips on creating with deliberate purpose and how to identify if you are a drifter.

10 Days left until Christmas!!!

Can you believe it, it’s almost here. I want to leave you with a couple tips and thoughts as we go into the home stretch before the big day.

  1. What are you focusing on? What we focus on grows/expands. It’s the Law of Attention at work. The Law of Attention, simply put, says that you will attract more of whatever your dominant thoughts, feelings are. Focus more on gratitude, love, peace and hope and see how you attract more things to feel gratitude, love, peace and hope for.
  1. Give from the heart. Let go of judgments and fears around gift giving. Will they like it, is it enough, etc. and give from the heart with love and it will always be enough.
  1. Ask God each day What do YOU want me to do today, how can I serve You today? and watch how He inspires your mind and heart to send an email or text, to stop by someone’s house, to pray for someone, to help a person in need, etc. I promise you will always have enough time when you put Him first.

Make the next 10 days really matter.

I choose to focus on gratitude, love, serving and inspiring. What do you choose to focus on?

Kindness Matters

Why do we as humans degrade, belittle and mock others? It’s something I have been thinking about lately. We have even gotten to where we get away with it by saying it was in ‘jest’ or it was just ’teasing’. I know I have been guilty of this. I dont have the answer as to why we do this, although I have a couple theories that I wont get in to today but I do have the solution.

KINDNESS, it really does matter.

Dont we all want to experience more kindness, more compassion and more love? So many people live in the constant fear of others judgments of them. This can be debilitating for some. I work with clients all the time on letting go of caring about others judgments so I am very familiar with this phenomenon.

What if we all gave each other the benefit of the doubt and showed more kindness, what could really shift and change in our world? You may think ‘not much, there is so much hatred and negativity out there’.

Let me assure you that Kindness Matters and your kindness can go a very long way.

I am not only talking about being more kind to our family members, to our friends and co-workers when they are irritating you or you feel they are in the wrong. Although those are important as well. I am talking kindness when it’s hard. Giving the benefit of the doubt and holding a space of love for everyone around you, friend or foe.

Can you stop yourself from getting angry at the driver that pulled out in front of you when there was no car behind you for miles? Are you willing to let go of your judgments of the woman in the store on her phone, clearly distracted, while her kids are yelling and fighting and being obnoxious? Can you let go of your prejudice of the person on the street corner holding up the sign and begging for food? Will you give a smile or grin to the kid at school that is a bully and is horrifically mean to others?

It’s easy to show more kindness to those we already love and care for, right? What could change if you showed more love and kindness to those you dont know, or those who have wronged you or those whom dont deserve it?

I want to ask you to join me the rest of this month of December in a Kindness challenge. For the next 23 days dig deep within and be willing to be kind when it is uncomfortable and awkward and hard and lets see what happens, lets see what changes we see.

I want to hear from you how this is going and any experiences you have while doing it.

Comment below or reach out on Facebook <here> and let’s see what kindness can really do.

I am so Sick of hearing this…

The one thing that I am so tired of hearing is “it’s not my fault” in the many words and phrases it presents itself.

We live in a society of Non-Responsibility.

It’s your spouses fault, you aren’t supported and don’t succeed in _______ (fill in the blank)

It’s just in my genes

I’ve never been good at ___________(fill in the blank), it’s just not who I am or in my nature.

My boss doesn’t see my value and potential and gave the raise to someone else.

I have no time or energy left over for myself because my kids are so demanding and time consuming.

Etc. Etc. Etc.

You all know this tune very well, I am quite familiar with it as well. It boils down to personal choice and responsibility. Ouch…that can sting a little can’t it.

IT IS TIME you start taking ownership in your lives. You guys, you are Powerful Creators, you are fully capable of creating more success, a healthier body, a happier family, and So Much More. You will never do so until you STOP BLAMING EVERYONE for your problems.

You don’t always have control over your environment or circumstance; however you Always Have Control over how you respond, feel, think and react.

Take back your power, you’ve heard this before right? This is what it means. Your power is your choice, your thoughts, your beliefs. There is no gene, environment or upbringing that can override human mind and will. It is literally the ONE thing that can’t be taken from you. That is a tremendous gift and you are not using it to its greatest potential.

Don’t know how to take back this control and power? Let me help you. I have learned how and taught my clients how to do this as well.

Lets jump on the phone for a quick 30 min conversation and let me help you discover how you can take more personal responsibility and your power back. We all do it from time to time, I am not immune from this. The difference is I have learned how to recognize it and stop it by replacing it with higher level thinking.

Go <HERE> IF YOU ARE READY TO TAKE BACK YOUR POWER and reclaim your life and schedule a call with me.

Start now and let’s create the best year EVER in 2017. Don’t waste anymore time.